Question

I am really worried about my aging father. He seems to have no interest in doing things or meeting people and has even lost his appetite. However he is in quite good health. Do you think he is depressed? and how can I help him?

Answer

We can appreciate how concerned you are regarding your father and because you mention that he is in quite good health, it is very possible that he is suffering depression. According to a study from UC Davis, California, older men get depression but less help This is because men, especially older men, are less likely to be referred for treatment of depression, although they get the disease just as often as women. That's because they like to be seen as the 'strong, silent type'. Men are more likely to conceal or mask the symptoms, and then reject the diagnosis when it is offered. They are more likely to "downplay" their symptoms ­ rather than admit 'feel depressed' or I feel sad' they will complain of a stomach ache or Anything to avoid being labeled as 'crazy'. These findings were based on a study of 1800 adults over 60 with major depression from 8 primary care clinics.
 

Of course people suffering depression are definitely not crazy, but the diagnosis of depression carries a stigma for many men, whereas women are more open and prepared to talk about their problems. This means that one of the first steps of treating men with depression is to get them to give up their 'core masculine values' and be prepared to talk freely with their psychotherapist. Certainly loss of interest in doing things or meeting people and loss of appetite are symptoms of depression, but if he is the 'strong silent type' he will consider that help is a sign of weakness. Such views are simply wrong. Depression is a treatable psychological problem Have a talk with your Father in an empathetic manner so as not to threaten him, about 'strong silent types' and get him to a sympathetic physician. You may be curing more than a loss of appetite or stomach ache!
 

It is important for you to understand the many and varied reasons why Seniors suffer depression. Adapting to being retired and maybe suddenly being treated as someone not quite so important in the community any more, which is indeed far from the truth, as older folk have much experience and knowledge to contribute, but other's attitudes can sometimes undermine confidence and lower self esteem. Loss of loved ones and/or friends through death or geographical reasons, real concern about journeying nearer to death themselves. Pain or illness, loss of interests and hobbies. Loss of physical and/or emotional independence. Lack of financial security. Being parted from family, due to the family's geographical relocation or their own altered living conditions. The list is endless-------.
 

In a study of 156 severely depressed men and women over 50, Duke University researchers suggest that 16 weeks of aerobic exercise may be as effective in alleviating depression as a 16-week regimen of antidepressant drugs. There are many benefits of physical exercise for seniors. It provides flexibility and muscular strength and increased bone strength plus cardiac health. It raises energy levels and helps to control weight as well as improves memory. Exercise can also improve mood A regular walk around the block or jog through the park can raise your self-esteem, reduce stress, ease anxiety, and even help abate symptoms of depression. Physical exercise of any kind, if performed in a group provides opportunities for socializing and friendship, which in turn improves self esteem and lifts one's mood. All this contributes to prolonged independence and enjoyment of life. And it is so important to keep contact with friends and continue with any interests and/or hobbiesWith the information you read here and the links below, you may be better equipped to assist your father find the most appropriate help so he can have a happier and more fulfilled life.
 

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